Last year I wrote a round up of all the things that had happened in the 5 years since I had married my Other Half. So this year I obviously needed to come up with something a bit better!!
As I was thinking it over I remembered one of my favourite quotes about marriage:
‘I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.’ Rita Rudner
I can’t remember where I first heard it, but I smile every time I think of it, because it’s so true. I don’t think there is anyone who gets under my skin quite like my Other Half. I think he would say the same about me!
Anyway, I digress…I have written and rewritten this post several times wondering whether I should share my thoughts on marriage. Some people may agree with some of what I’ve shared and disagree with other parts. Some people may disagree with the whole lot! But this is what marriage is to me:
Marriage is more than finding the person you want to grow old with. It’s happiness, tenacity, passion, tribulation and more joy than you ever thought possible all rolled into one and that doesn’t even scratch the surface!
Marriage is hard work. A challenge all on it’s own. Blending your life with another person’s is never simple but it’s so worth it.
Marriage is a blessing. The knowledge that you will come home every day to someone who loves you in all your flawed glory. Who knows you are not perfect but adores you anyway. The person who picks you up when you’re down, who makes you laugh just because, who is your greatest advocate when you’ve had enough.
Marriage is a choice. One you make every time you disagree or fall out. When that habit that gets under your skin and drives you to the point of insanity looks like it’s never going to change. When you have those ‘if only’ moments about your life.
Marriage is a privilege. To hold someone’s heart in your hand, to treasure and care for it. To never break it.
Marriage is a journey. An opportunity to grow alongside someone else, to be their challenger and to be challenged by them.
Marriage is trust. Knowing without a shadow of a doubt that if you fall, someone will catch you.
Marriage is fun! Who else will dance around the living room singing cheesy songs with you at 11pm?!?
Marriage is love. Real love. Love that lasts beyond the first zing, the first crackle of attraction. Love that upholds, endorses and protects.
I am so lucky that I got to marry my best friend. Sometimes I forget how much when he does things like leaving a wet towel in the middle of the bedroom floor or changing his plans at the last minute without telling me (I don’t handle change well!) but then I remember that it’s my decision to work through the times when he makes me really really mad because of all the reasons he is so great: his enthusiasm for life, his ability to make me laugh like no one else, his loyalty to people he loves, how hard he works for the sake of his family. Just a teeny tiny snapshot of the reasons why I love him.
So I suppose I can just about forgive him when his alarm goes off at 6am and he lies in bed staring at his phone unable to remember how to turn it off until I help him…every single morning!
Because who else is going to watch Pitch Perfect with me a hundred times and laugh at the same jokes?!?
Happy six years James!
Everybody be cool, it’s just a normal day.