I know I have said it before and I will almost certainly say it again before the weekend rolls around, Christmas is one of my favourite times of year. I love the festive spirit in the run up to Christmas, the choosing of the tree, the decorating, the gift selection for loved ones and of course the excuse to indulge in a treat or two!
But the thing which I love the most is that we get 2 weeks together as a family. That is no work, no distractions…just good, quality family time. This year has felt a bit all over the place if I’m honest. With the October half term being so late (and actually being the November half term!) and Christmas being on a weekend…the kids seem to be finishing quite close to Christmas and James won’t finish at work until Friday and then Christmas will be HERE.
When Slater & Gordon (http://www.slatergordon.co.uk/family-and-personal-matters/) invited me to share what makes family time so precious for me, I knew this was the perfect time of year to think about how we’ve spent time together as a family in 2016 and what I love about spending time together over Christmas.
It is so important to make time for family, especially at this time of year. I think maybe I have overstretched a little as well, committing to Vlogmas, the Kindness Elves, a Carol Concert, a VIP evening for the homeless in Southport and just about everything else you can imagine which might be taking place in December so I am more than ready for this break to finally roll around.
We tend to spend Christmas Day as just the four of us, enjoying things at our own pace but we always plan time to see extended family over the 2 weeks that the kids are off school and James isn’t at work as well. It’s something about this year which just really puts me in mind of families (whether blended, non-biological or otherwise…) and the sense of togetherness which is so important.
I’ve loved seeing all the posts on social media just recently for restaurants, coffee shops, churches and even people’s homes which are being opened on Christmas Day for those who are on their own. I think it is a wonderful thing to do around this time of year as I imagine it can also be an incredibly lonely time for some people as well.
Our Christmas Day is a pretty chilled out affair, with the main focus being on just relaxing as a foursome. We take things very much at our own pace which we wouldn’t be able to do if we were rushing out for Christmas dinner. We start with stockings in our PJ’s, followed by a cooked breakfast. We take a quick break to get washed and dressed and then it’s into the lounge for under the tree presents. We have found this works to stop the kids from getting overwhelmed and turning into little terrors who just rip presents open left right and centre (one year I think Meg accidentally opened the majority of mine!). Then we pop a Christmas movie in and snuggle up whilst James heads into the kitchen to make the dinner…oh I’m feeling it already!
We might go out for a walk if we need some fresh air later and to let the dog run off her energy, I think last year we went down to the beach and then it’s home for some warming hot chocolate and a chance to play with any new toys Santa might have brought for us.
Total simplicity and yet the best kind of family time in my opinion. I can’t wait!
How do you spend time with family over Christmas?
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Way back in 2013 when I decided I wanted to try my hand at freelance writing it felt like a very spur of the moment decision. I had my laptop and that was just about it. I initially worked from our dining table and although it wasn’t ideal, it was a case of making do.
Over the following months, as my business grew and developed, it became clear that I needed something a little more formal. As I was trying to balance freelance work and lack of childcare the amount of time I had to sit down and work was very precious and having to set up and take down my work station each time cut into that time. I would have left my laptop up but after making that mistake once and having a small person remove all the keys from the keyboard I quickly learned my lesson!
I can’t tell you the importance and the difference that having a proper work space can make when you are working from home. One of my top tips for anyone who is thinking about going freelance is to try and get into a ‘work’ mind-set in order to help you focus. This means, as tempting as it may be, not working in your PJ’s or from the sofa (where possible) and trying to set yourself working hours and targets. The second piece of advice I would give is to have a space where you can go and work. It all helps to get you into the right mind-set.
And in fact, I’m not the only person who has come to realise this; Furniture @ Work have recently created an ebook all about having the right furniture at work – predominantly having the right kind of chair but this knowledge also extends to surrounding yourself with the kind of things. Things which are going to motivate you and not cause you to get distracted or disheartened.
I was lucky enough that when we moved to the North West I was able to upgrade my working situation and get my own home office. Getting to pick the type of furniture I wanted around me, the things that I thought would motivate me and let me work in comfort was quite an exciting time and I have found that I am much more productive on the days when I sit in my office as opposed to when I give myself a ‘break’ and head downstairs to work, or when I am trying to balance work and childcare during the holidays and have to work with one eye on Meg and Eli.
Going freelance was the best move I could ever have made and I love the flexibility it gives me but it is important to think of it as a ‘real’ job (despite what other people would suggest!) – I would always tell anyone thinking about going freelance to absolutely go for it; I was utterly terrified in the initial weeks and now, three years on I can say that it has been amazing. But it’s important to think about how you will operate day to day in order to get the best out of yourself and having the right work environment is a very important part of that process.
In fact, my top tips for anyone wanting to go freelance are as follows:-
*Plan Ahead – don’t quit your day job without a basic understanding of what you will be doing and how you will pay the bills!
*Tell People – you will be surprised at how many of your friends and family will recommend you. Almost all of my work in the early days came from word of mouth.
*Have A Space – I think we have covered this above!
*Gain Experience: If you are branching out from the experience you have then appreciate that you may have to take any and all jobs in the early days to build up a portfolio. Once you are more established you can become more picky about the jobs you take and the rates you charge.
*Set Yourself Working Hours: Probably the most tricky part about being freelance but where possible, get yourself into a routine.
*Don’t Be Afraid: This could be the best decision of your life so GO FOR IT. You can always return back to your old type of work if you decide it isn’t for you.
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When I think back to being pregnant it seems like something which happened to somebody else; it has been almost 6 years since I was last pregnant although I can remember clear as a bell both times I told James I was pregnant. The shock and then the sheer joy is something I will forever love and hold dear.
Both times we knew quite early on; I used the best pregnancy test for early detection I could find, there are a number of options on the market these days which will even tell you how far along you are but these weren’t as popular way back in 2009! But we waited until after our 12 week scan to share the news with others. It was difficult to keep the news a secret as we were so very excited and wanted to tell everyone we met but living away from our parents, we knew that we would need to contain the news as we wanted to tell them face to face.
I don’t remember sharing anything online until after our 20 week scan when things were starting to get a little more real and we had begun to decorate the nursery and finally buy things for the baby. We did keep the gender of our babies a secret both times from everyone, even though we found out ourselves. Gender reveals have also become a much bigger thing during pregnancy than they once were; I’m afraid I’m very old fashioned in this regard and wanted the gender and the name of our babies to remain a secret until we announced their arrival…which we did do online!
Announcing your pregnancy in a unique way has become much more commonplace that it once was; there are so many different creative ways and just a quick internet search will throw up thousands of ideas on Pinterest with suggestions of how you can share the news with family and friends. I suppose that with the advancement of social media, and the fact that we share so many of our personal moments online nowadays, it would only make sense that people would also use their social media channels to announce their pregnancy to the world as well.
Even second time around, I kept my pregnancy mostly offline. My social media posts at the time were mostly centred around the antics of a cheeky 2 year old Meg and less about the newest upcoming addition to our family. I suppose that I would share more if I were to have a third; I didn’t have the blog or the majority of my social media platforms so there were less places to share. I’m fairly certain that I would still keep the gender and name a secret though…there should be some surprises in store.
I know that there are quite mixed feelings about using social media to announce pregnancies but, despite the fact that I was quite private about my pregnancies, I do enjoy watching how other people choose to announce theirs…a pair of booties hung on a washing line, a little umbrella on a rainy day, a chalkboard held in front of mama’s tummy…I think if I had my time again I would definitely try to come up with something a little more unique and creative. My favourites are the ones where other siblings are involved…and they often look less than impressed at the news. I always want to reach over and tell them that it’ll be okay…they’ve got a ready-made best friend cooking in their mama’s tummy and it’ll soon be the best thing that ever happened.
And now onto the giveaway…
Once you have announced your pregnancy, it is time to start making a list of all the things you will need for your arrival and I have partnered with Nakturnal to offer readers the chance to win a $50 gift card which can be used at Diapers.com. If you would like to enter this giveaway then you can do so by using the rafflecopter below.
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Back in October (which already feels like a lifetime ago and not just 2 months!) we were invited to an event being hosted by Wynsors World of Shoes and we were provided with a pair of Bogs Wellies for Meg and Eli.
As a family who love being outdoors, I cannot stress enough the importance of owning a decent pair of wellies. We don’t have to worry so much about Meg but Eli will really put a pair of boots through their paces. If he sees a puddle, he will wade through it, no matter how deep. If he sees some mud, he will jump in it. If he sees something that can be climbed…you get the idea!
As a result we have discovered a number of brands which just don’t offer the durability he needs from his boots; as well as keeping his feet warm and dry they also have to stand up to the rigorous testing he puts them through every time we head outside and I was curious about whether the Bogs Wellies we had been sent would be able to withstand Eli.
He has worn them pretty consistently for the last two months; it’s the kind of weather now where you can’t always risk heading out for a walk in trainers as you don’t know what you are going to come across so whether we are going to the park, down to the beach, or through the woods, we turn to our wellies.
The first thing we really like is the way the wellies have been designed and this is something which a number of other people have commented on when we have been out and about. They have little handles cut into the wellies to enable children to pull them on by themselves but they are far enough down in the boot that they aren’t going to damage by a bit of pulling. We have had a couple of pairs with the handles which stick out of the sides and these have snapped within a couple of wears…I don’t think this will be the case here.
Bog wellies are also lined with Bogs Max-Wick™ to keep feet dry and technology to help keep the boots smelling fresh as well. In addition they are incredibly soft and flexible which makes climbing up sand dunes and trees in the woods that bit easier as they almost seem to mould to the foot rather than being rigid which cheaper brands of wellies can often be.
You can no doubt see that thus far we have been really impressed with the wellies; we have welly socks for the kids which are thermal socks so we know that their feet will always be warm but we haven’t had any complaints about the wellies letting in water and last weekend we discovered that they are just the right height for some wave jumping in the freezing cold sea…no accidental water seeping in over the tops.
Prices for the wellies start at around £35 which is a little more expensive than you might usually pay but we have honestly no complaints to make. In fact, we weren’t asked to write this separate review but we wanted to share with you how fantastic the wellies are and how much use we have gotten from them. You don’t want to head into winter without having a solid pair of shoes for your kids to wear and I really feel like Bogs Wellies tick all the boxes for us.
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For the last few years, each December has seen the arrival of the Kindness Elves. In our house these are Glaede, Fred and Elska and they are small elves who pop along each day to suggest some way that Meg and Eli can share a little love and kindness during the month of December.
This is our 4th year of doing the Kindness Elves and each year I am amazed at the way Meg and Eli so effortlessly get on with what they have been asked to do. For us the Elves are about taking the focus away from what presents will be under the tree on Christmas Day and moving it towards thinking of others during this festive season.
I have been sharing a lot of what the Elves have been getting up to over in our Vlogmas videos if you want to take a look over there but I have to say, although sometimes it gets to 11pm and I realise I haven’t yet set anything up for the next day, and although it feels like sometimes it is a little bit of an extra effort, I really think it adds to the Christmas magic and I absolutely love seeing the kids’ faces in the morning when they come down and try to find where the Elves are hiding that day.
The Elves will stay with us until the 24th December when they will return to Santa and the North Pole and leave behind a little something for the kids (and I have a really amazing thing planned for this which I will share more about closer to the time)
Usually I try to give a weekly update on what the Elves have been getting up to, in case it inspires ideas in others as I know how tricky it can be to come up with things for the Elves to be doing but with Vlogmas and work this year I just don’t know how active I will be on the blog so I’ve decided to share my ideas for the month with you here; feel free to use them for yourselves!
Look out for a child who doesn’t have anyone to play with Ø Read a story to a younger child Ø Festive fun day (craft, tree decoration etc) Ø Give someone an extra big smile Ø Buy food for the food bank Ø Toy sort out: give away to charity Ø Gold coins as a well done for the effort made so far Ø Looking after belongings: tidy our rooms Ø Make Christmas cookies Ø Share Christmas cookies with friends Ø Make a bird feeder Ø Simple acts of kindness: hold a door and say thank you Ø Send some happy mail and write Christmas cards Ø Take donations to the local animal shelter Ø Super spy mission: do something kind for someone without them noticing Ø A treat for being so sweet: build a Gingerbread house Ø Carol singing Ø Picking up litter Ø Party time: take in treats for classmates Ø Gifts for teachers Ø Making thank you cards Ø Calling a relative to wish them a Merry Christmas Ø Christmas Eve Box
What do you think of our ideas? We have tried to create a good mix of doing things for other people (realistically), taking care of things within the home and little rewards for all the effort made as well.
I hope you can put some of them to good use!